It’s good to lose temper…sometimes!

Losing temper is such a stress relieving exercise. The ones who do so , would understand what I am talking about. For the other lily white, calm, patient and sweet people – this post might be an eye opener. It’s a great feeling to lose temper and vent out what you really feel without the mask of manners and poise. It leaves you feeling very light and stress free. I recommend one should do it once in a while …not often else it becomes a part of your personality and not an exercise.

Losing temper often is bad for health not only of the person who loses temper but also for those who have to bear the brunt of it. It takes away the positivity of the environment and also ends up adding negative points in the credit of the person losing the temper. Hey Baghwan… I am again going off the track. Coming back to my topic, I believe highlighting the positive aspects of losing temper is a very important task, and as my community service initiative I should take it up.

Just imagine that you are not confined by - the narrow walls of manners, the shackles of etiquette, the bars of communication skills and veil of anger management techniques. In such a freedom of expression phase , you can vent out your true feeling, specially anger. That’s the moment of utter peace when you are in touch with your inner devil. You can scream, shout and show your irritation without any restriction and let the other (poor) being know what you really think and feel about the situation and the person. But, how does that help you, for this read on without preconceived notions on the same - when you vent out your anger, you let out the negative inside you, your frustrations spill out and the blockages to your creativity get washed away. After all the negative that is stored inside moves out, it leaves a lot of space for the positive to move in. It makes you feel light, free and ready to take on life.

Am I an advocate of losing temper? No, I recommend losing temper once in while, which is really good for your emotional and creative well being, this is a tried and tested formula without any side effects. Only keep in mind that either you know how to mend fences with the people you scream at or the people you scream at, should not be important enough to feel sad for, if you lose them…! I can’t explain the technique of losing temper, that you have to learn on your own, but my helpful nature is urging me to give you all some tips, so here we go:

1. Either do not lose temper or do it in style – use your vocal chords to the optimum.

2. Give yourself 2-3 months in between such shows of temper.

3. Do not forget to eat when angry, being angry is very energy consuming.

4. Remember to keep the temper high for at least a few hours.

5. Do not stop yourself from saying, sorry screaming your real feelings.

6. Do not allow the person to explain the situation, else what’s the fun in losing temper.

7. Never forget one thing - it’s your temper and your life….enjoy it.


I hope the lucky seven tips above help you. Lose temper and feel the negativity flow out.
P.S. – Learn to scream and shout before you start the above exercise.

The Southern Charm….Thoda hatke

This is not about the delicious dosas, idlis, sambhar and other delicious southern delicacies. But then it is not even about Southern Silk…those great sarees, patterns, and colours. To clear the issue further, this isn’t even about Southern tourism…though I love those beaches, backwaters, canoes etc, . And don’t even think that I am writing about culture, temples and the way of life in South India. Then, what charm am I talking about----- Southern movie stars….well you are closer to the mark but have still not hit the bull’s eye. This is about the Charm of Dubbed Southern Movies. You have to see them to believe them. To name a few – Indra – the tiger, Dharmatma, Naya Don, The Iron Man etc. These movies are priceless.

To give you a little history of my association with these movies – Bhai went to Bangalore around 5 years back(and stayed there for 4 years), and on his first trip hope he brought this new hobby – watching southern movies dubbed in hindi. Infact together with his colleagues they have found CMAC – An Association of people who admire such movies. He would watch them and enjoy (God only knows why). And after a while even I started recognizing the heroes like Junior NTR, Vikram, Surya, Dhanush etc.,I am not talking about legends like Rajnikanth , Kamal Hassan etc., this is about newer breed of heroes serving the age old wine. The plots are very predictable – “A Hero is a Hero”, no matter how thin he is – he will kill all the goons without getting hurt. If he stamps his foot hard …there would be an earthquake at the villain’s den(doosra Sabu), he would wear real tapori clothes and mouth out of world dialogues (And still manage to impress the heroine). Add 2-3 heroines fighting over him and a villain about to ruin the village/city/ state/country – you have the main ingredient ready. Now, add some spices like an unknown past, Robin hood tendencies in the hero, a sidekick ( a comedian who is a friend of the hero) and some songs. To serve the movie – Some actors from hindi movies, some special dances, and awesome fights (which are always in favour of the hero) and you have the movie ready. They are typical entertainers closer to ‘Dabanng’ kinda cinema.

Uff... don’t start making faces , these movies actually grow on you. When you watch them initially – the first few movies – you would hate them and call me names but slowly and steadily you would appreciate them (especially if you have a brother like mine - you have no choice). I have learnt to like them and now am quiet an expert on them. Lately, I have been included in the CMAC as the first outside member. Leave your sensibilities, logic, and reasoning aside when you watch them else would not be able to acknowledge them to their fullest. They make you believe anything – and I mean anything is possible; the hero would win in the end. And to top it all anyone can be a hero. Watch these movies with heart and laugh a lot , they are good for health. Tip – Look for Set Max and Star Gold for them , though sometimes even Filmy shows great movies.

These movies have a certain unique charm  – watch them else you would never understand what I mean.

Maa - You define Love

One word Maa, Mom, Mummy, Amma, describes all love in this world. This is one relation most difficult to define, closest to heart and the oldest in our lifetime coz it starts even before you are born. Hence, I am not even going to try to express this relation - My Maa and me .This post is just the tip of the iceberg. The first word a child speaks is " Ma" and hers the first touch,  he/she recognises. The feelings in the post may be shared with almost everybody reading it coz loving maa is not a right and privilege enjoyed just by me. We all love our mothers.

My Maa - My Strength , My Silent Pillar of Support, My Unending Source of Inspiration , My Biggest Supporter... Maa is Maa. She knows me the best but never lets it out that she has caught me lying, waiting for me to confess. My mother - the lady who is the rock of the whole family inspite of her soft and fragile appearance. My Maa - who would never let me rest when she knew I could achieve more, making those endless cups of tea, mouthwatering snacks, my favourite dishes and anything to ensure that my concentration never wavers. Meri Maa - would listen patiently when I would crib about people and let me vent out my frustrations and once over , would sweetly ask me- " This is the problem....now what is your solution to it" . During my school days she would read my books(she used to buy an extra set) when I was at school so that she could understand when I talked about school and help me with my homework. She was my first teacher and the best too. Whatever I am today , I owe it to her and Dad.

I remember those teenage years when I fought a lot with her over anything and everything. Each shopping trip would end up in a fight coz what I wanted she didn't like. Most of the things which she rejected but I still bought(Mere Papa the Great) ended up in the trunk after wearing it 1-2 times coz I actually didn't like them. Buying them was my show of rebellion to her discipline.  And Maa knowing me well, knew the fate of those dresses. After one such trip, Maa made a habit of not allowing Dad and me to shop alone and takes away our wallets on shopping trips. Years have taught me a lot - now I blindly trust her decisions specially when shopping and never has it happened that I have regretted her decision. Infact she has a lot better and bolder choice than mine.

Maa and I are very different from each other , we aren't a filmi maa beti jodi - where the daughter is the "chayya" of her mother. Maa never wanted me to be like her, she wanted me to be like "ME" - different , unique , confident and happy. She is very patient and I want instant results. She gives people a lot of chances and I believe - do not give a person the second opportunity, to hurt you. She loves getting up early and I love late nights (all of them at home). She is an observer and I participate. She is a great cook and I am in learning phase. She is all white and I have shades of grey. But she loves me and I love her. (Actually I am a very lovable person). Her trust in me in unbelievable - even I do not trust myself that much - no amount of nonsense and story telling shakes her faith in her kids (but she isn't blind to our faults).

For My Maa - You have stood by me at my worst and stood aside when I was basking in the glory of my success. You have defended me like a tigress when someone questioned me and still stood silent when I shouted angrily in our fights. You have allowed me to go out with friends happily without questioning and been my companion when there was nobody. You have smiling borne my moods, nakhras and nautankis and still taught me to nurture relations.

You define Love, Maa. And  I love You.