Baby Steps Are fine.....

You are going right , my dear; Set your own pace.

It's your life and decisions; Your own future to trace.

It may seem confusing at times, Things may not be always clear;

But chaos is also a part of life, Choices aren't easy sometimes.

Don't compare it with others, Your relations are your own;

Follow the values and attitude,  With which you have grown.

Others may prod you to move, At speed that is too high;

 Take it all in your stride. Coz, Baby Steps 'right now' are perfectly fine.

You may falter at times, Pause before you take any dive;

For each step you take now, will define your life, So...

Baby Steps... are just so fine.

My Journey to use eyeliner

                                                                   Using eyeliner is an easy task for almost all girls, the writer excluded. I have tried countless times and countless products but still can never guarantee the results.

Let’s travel the time machine into my first year at college – I was never a supporter of using beauty products so had almost no experience in using them. And, then came the moment that defined my association with eyeliner for the next few years - I, the great, broke a real costly (read imported) eyeliner of a classmate, while trying to forcibly open it in a real clumsy manner. And then under the feeling of guilt asked her the cost and whoosh said I would pay for it after all it was my fault. The cheapsto she was…she said OK(sniff…No one has big heart ). My naivety had no end during that time, I assumed that eyeliners cost that much only, almost my entire pocket money of a month – so I deducted using make up is real expensive, so let me spend money on books and movies. Aha ! I had a superb time that way.

A few years went by and I still didn’t use eyeliner – but the girls around me did, so I claimed that I like my natural look – which sounded better than accepting that I do not know how to. And I started secret sessions of how to use them coz “I can but I won’t” is my motto hence accepting that I can’t would have hurt my ego. I met with some initial success with a pencil eyeliner (which much to my surprise were pocket friendly). So I happily bought lots of eyeliners – brown, black , red, blue, golden, green etc . Now , I liked using them sometimes. A small way of being a part of a large group.

The next stage was using little sophisticated eyeliner – liquid and curly lashes. My darling cousin gifted me one….It’s still lying somewhere used only once when she tried teaching me how to use it. I mean how someone can spend her time learning how to use eyeliner. I couldn’t. Now that was for eyelashes also also hence I rejected and moved back my loyal pencils.

But you always have to face what you fear most – on a friend’s marriage I went to a parlour to get ready – the lady inspite of my misgivings used a good branded liquid eyeliner – whoa my eyes looked awesome to even myself. But they started itching after a few hours and were swollen – which was weird coz I was from groom’s side and was not even crying. Then after 3 days of suffering pain , I realized that I had eye allergy using that eyeliner – so out went the liquid eyeliners.

Back to my loyal pencils again, I got bored….was I weird or is this common? I was surrounded by the thought a lot. But talking to couple of more girls brought out the fact that it happens- allergy to even good brands. I got to know of a Kajal sytle liner but still am modestly capable of using it on upper eyelid only. For lower I am still skeptical. And my loyal pencils stay with me always. And believe you me – using eyeliner is not an easy task…..it is tough , very tough.

So this is my still unfinished journey to use an eyeliner, though I can use lipgloss with little success , the less said about other make up products a.k.a eye shadow, blush, lipstick, creams, the better I would feel.

I know You are there

Sitting up high, looking out for me;

I know you are there, protecting me.

I can't see you but feel you around,

my senses tell me -  not to frown;

my mind tells me - not to dream,

but my soul knows - you are protecting me.

It's been a long time , you left us alone;

Though we are strong , we sometimes mourn;

Standing tall ,your simplicity won hearts,

You were the beacon that showed us the path.

A brave soul , nothing made you fall,

you had endless strength and love for us all;

You showed us way to enjoy our lives,

gave us a home, a family and the hope for life.

If I close my eyes I can see you there,

Can hear your strong voice fighting my fears,

Can feel your wings surrounding the family;

And your smile saying - stop worrying.

I can't believe that you are not there,

You were and are our gaurdian soul;

I know you are watching us from up there;

Ensuring that we are safe, coz you care.

I know Grandpa wherever you are ;

You are protecting me.



Love you Pitaaji(Grandpa)......I know it deep down that wherever you are , you are looking after us.

What ??? How??? And Why?

The blog title may seem crazy, but then we humans are crazy else who can survive this maddening experience called life.

All through our lives , from the unfortunate moment when we start thinking and I strongly believe we are better off when we do not apply our brains, we are surrounded by questions. These questions dictate us , distract us , direct us and in the end digest us without any second thought. So these Qs have Disastrous D effect - in slang language we call it the Dog effect on humans. Gosh! It sounds so terrible but then this weird situation is so real. Just think we you started reading this blog – your first question was – "WHAT" has Rachita written? Once you find an answer, your second question is “ HOW” did she manage to find this “ strange” topic? And once you find answer which will still be confusing , "WHY" did I write this? will trouble you. And most of you will remain confused so as to why I wrote this blog post. So putting it into one line - ' What' is easy to answer, 'How' is always confusing and 'why' remains a mystery!

An action as simple as reading my post (and you would agree with me that I use very easy language) instantly surrounds you with what – How - Why. Try applying it any situation in your life , and you find that questions surround you more than the answers. These questions deplete our energy and utilize a large part of our ingenuity and we are left with crude basics to find solutions. Read it somewhere – “Sometimes questions are more powerful than the answers”. The writer there meant it in a positive sense but I am looking at the whole issue from the other end. When questions take over our lives, when questions question everything in our lives , when questions never have an end point and when each question leads to another and our life becomes just a game to solve them and find answers.

 

So, sit back and take a look at your life. Are you doing the same? Don’t let questions become a major part of your life. Life is a journey ,enjoy it, cherish it , without questions sometimes. Give your tiny little brain some rest and let your feelings be in touch with your soul.

P.S. In case you still want to know WHY I wrote this post? The answer is “ Aive Hi” translated into English “ Just Like that”.

The Female Driving Skills – A target for all male chauvinist morons

GIVE ME THE FREEDOM TO DRIVE ----WITHOUT YOUR COMMENTS !!!

 

Something all the females who drive would agree to, is that we get all kinds of jokes targeted at us, by all most everyone. I have been driving for almost a decade now, have no tickets issued in my name, still the kind of comments I get to hear from people make me wish that I smash their heads. But I let that feeling go – after all who can fight with morons.

Do we judge a doctor by gender? Then why target a female driver? Now you would ask what is the connection? Its simple – like a doctor saves life, a good driver saves lives. I wonder how can driving skills be dependent on gender? Either a person can drive well or not, it is a skill learnt through practice, where did the question of gender arise? Just think about - How many massive accidents have been caused by a lady driving the vehicle? You would be able to name maybe 1 or 2, if you try hard, really hard. And this is because we follow traffic rules and not break them, we are not speed freaks and we do not have to show off our skills to anyone. We allow other to drive without fear. So, are these a reason to crack jokes or to admire us?

A dear friend of mine, well educated and modern told me once – “ I stop and park my car aside if I see a woman driving the car in front of me” and started laughing. I was shocked, this coming from a guy who had always respected a girl’s intelligence and is one of the most intelligent person I know, the statement was( %^^&&^) really offending. Another incident(though nothing new but was catalyst) that really hit me was last Monday – I was driving back from my office , the car in front of me was being driven by a lady. She was a little slow at pick up when red-light turned green. Everyone around including the rickshaw wala(who himself breaks all traffic rules) stared at her as if she was retarded. Stuck at the next signal, same thing happened but this time the person driving was a male, the same people just passed by without a sniggering glance or comment. What was the difference in both situations? Just that when a female drives it’s always her mistake and with man it could be anything and anybody except him. The irony is that even some females are a party to it(Aurat hi aurat ki sabse badi dushman hoti hai).

I take offence at any such stupid male chauvinist remark, I do not mean that all guys drive badly or all girls drive well. I know of some guys who should have never been given the car's keys and some girls who should only sit on the driving seats for photo shoots only. On the other hand I know a lot of people with great driving skills not withstanding their gender. My intel inside mind asked a question, then why this discrimination? The answer is so stupid but then what else to expect from MCPs. Some guys feel more mannish only after putting a girl down. Crude jokes , typical comments on a girls’ driving skills are a pre requisite to entry into this out dated and disgusting male moron group. A lady can run your home well, hold a job along with all family concerns, remain smiling inspite of all tensions and be a role model to her children but…….some men( not all , some are real gentlemen) get a kick only after putting the lady down. And this is the easist way afterall driving was male domain we ventured into.

For me a generalized comment on a girl’s driving skills " just because she is a girl she does not know how to drive"……lessens the respect for the guy who speaks it aloud. So you better not speak such idiotic comments around me…you would lose a part of my respect for you each time you speak like a moron.

So, to be a Man act like one and not like a male chauvinist creature.