There are pages still unturned

Just when you think what more could happen, life opens a new chapter, it takes a new course in the journey...and there are pages still unturned. The title of the post is something a dear friend said to me years ago, today I can say that I have understood the meaning. As usual understanding simple words is the most difficult task.

 

Life is a book, each chapter is connected to the last and next one, you can't take out one and treat it as separate. In other words, life is a book with one story and not a collection of short stories. The chapter you have experienced is your past , the one you are reading is your present, shaped by your past and in turns shapes the next chapter , your future. Do not try to skip pages or be too fast, you may end up missing an important part/link.

 

As long as you live there would be unturned pages. Though the thickness of the book does not imply long life ...it means a great life. A life filled with pages of your experiences, of memories you have made with loved ones, of your dreams and then reality. Live your pages today fully and look forward to the unturned ones. You never know when the writer adds a twist, a new spice and a wonderful adventure to your life.

 

I have seen people wasting the present in lure of a happy and secure future, and believe you me, that future never arrives. By the time they reach the stage they call secure, they forget how to enjoy. And remember the present shapes the future. How could a dull and boring present lead to a fun filled lively future. My book is pretty thick and I owe it to the wonderful people I have in my life. And there so many unturned pages. I hope it has lots of twists, spices and life.

 

 

May your book be filled with lovely moments of friendship, chapters of love, cherished memories with family , health and happiness. Enjoy Reading!

I forgive myself...

Read a beautiful thought today:

 

"You need to forgive yourself. How long must you carry the burdens of your mistakes? You are not meant to live every moment with regret. Learn from your past, and carry on with your head held high."

Courtesy - Message from God Application on fb.

 

Such a simple statement but we  rarely think on these lines. We always talk about forgiving others. On the lines that - Forgive them it makes life happier and easier. But how many times do we even think about forgiving ourselves for our so called mistakes, our misdemeanours, our attitude, our behaviour...maybe never. Somewhere deep inside we carry this feeling that we deserve bad luck because of something wrong that we have done. We forget to forgive ourselves. We remember every wrong action and carry it within us for a long time, it is very hard to let go.

 

I too have been holding onto a lot of mistakes that I have committed. Therefore, I have decided to follow the 3 step approach:

 

1. Accept my mistakes

2. Accept that I am human and would make more mistakes

3. Forgive myself

 

Dear God - what a medium to send your message -  but I got it.

 

Hope that you all understand the message too. Coz even writing that I am going to forgive myself is making me feel lighter.

 

Stop holding onto the past, forgive yourselves and let go. Only then would there be space for making more mistakes and living life fully, without regret. Do not hold onto the mistakes , hold onto the learning from it. Life is too interesting to make the same mistake again, commit a new one each time and learn a new lesson.

 

 

To err is human and to forgive is divine. Get in touch with the divinity inside you for your own self.

They ask me...

They ask me do I miss my city
And I say yes…
It’s a part of me,
Or maybe I am a part of it.

Then I think why ?
Is it the city, its people,
Or do I miss the charm?
Or maybe its fast but still slow?
It is new but still old..

Am still confused as to why?
Is it one factor or many,
Or I just miss coz it is...
Saddi Delhi..
Loved by all!

I have seen it grow and prosper.
Or maybe it has seen me do so.
I have seen its ups and down,
It was with me through all times.
Always a friend never my foe!

I have enjoyed its glory and
Felt its pain.
It has taken so much,
And a lot from it, have I gained.
A journey together!

It witnessed my success, my failures
And my struggle and wins.
It has enjoyed my laughter,
And shared my tears..
A city of my emotions!

Delhi lives in my heart,
No matter where I go…
So when they ask me..
Do you miss Delhi?


I reply ofcourse!


P.S : It does not mean I do not like my current city...!

Found but Lost

I found her one day,
enjoying the warmth of life
loving the feel of freedom
eating the fruits of her labour;
lost in her own world.

I found her again one day,
looking for something
searching her retinue
emptying her bags;
lost in her loss.

I found her yet again one day,
confused in herself
finding her identity again
solving her life's puzzle;
lost in her lost world.

I found her again & again,
more confused than ever
bewildered with events
begging for some familiarity;
lost in a strange world alone.

Maybe I will find her again one day,
enjoying the warmth of life
loving the feel of freedom
eating the fruits of her labour;
lost in her new world.

Words - Are they important?

Communication is 7-10 % words , 25-30 % tone and rest is body language. The percentage may vary a little but I think we all understand that words make only a small part of the actual communication. So, are the words that important? If gestures, actions and touch could say it all , what was the need to develop languages?  Off late the question has been bothering me a lot as I have used the same statistics endless times in my sessions. But going through them now I realise , tone belongs to words - tone isn't non verbal. Therefore, words even by these stats constitute a big 35-40% of communication.

Remember Boyzone's song - "It's only words and words are all I have to take your heart away". Words have a taste , a power that makes people your enemy or friend. Words can hurt , words can heal, words can change the world so in other words - words matter. Still we choose not to speak about the things that matter the most to us - to the people who matter the most to us, of the feelings that matter the most to us. Because speaking makes us feel vulnerable, maybe that's why we all wait for the others to speak out first. Ironically, this is what makes us  the most vulnerable - not speaking , it keeps everything bottled inside and we become an emotional volcano. Ready to burst anytime and making each moment till then an agony. Words win world, hearts and people and may end up doing just the opposite, it is this power that makes us afraid.

Don't we always or most of the time hurt the people we care about - our friends and families -  by not speaking about what they mean to us and what we feel. We assume they understand us and we do not need to speak. But given the power of words , this is the group that should never be deprived of words of care, wisdom and love. Sometimes a few words convey what our endless actions can not. Making you and your stand clearer than any other means. Read this a few days ago - "Sometimes hearts are broken by words left unspoken". So take chance, it is really a sign of power when you can let go of your fears and speak.

Words do not make the complete communication, but they are an essential component of the same. Sometimes that first 10% , without which the rest 90% of communication becomes meaningless.

P.S - Sometimes words are better left unsaid, other times those unspoken words could have made all the difference. So think, choose with care but speak out , you owe it to yourself.