"I am a Snob....and I do not apologise for being one."
Being a citizen of a free and democratic country with considerable intelligence , I have the right to be selective about whom to speak to. Ironically, in the name of good manners, schooling & then career(Office Etiquette) we forgo this right . Do we not have the right to, not to talk to people we do not like, or may be simply we do not want to talk?
I am a snob, or a nicer word would be an introvert. I like to talk to people only when I want to ,else leave me alone. Why should I talk or be nice to someone I do not feel like being nice to? I may not be in a good mood, may be I am busy,or I want to be left alone or simply I do not like the person.
The underlying question is - Why should I? When I buy clothes i like, go to places i want to, eat what i feel like and do everything my way, then I also have the right to choose who I will talk to.
To be nice to a moron, idiot and totally unworthy person(as per my standards) or trying to be nice to a highly intelligent ,with superb IQ, extra sweet human being is not my idea of having a great time. If it makes people wary of my reactions, and create lot of bad vibes about me, let it be. If I try to make everyone happy, the one person who definitely would not be happy, would be, ME. So, label me "Selfish" but then let me spread happiness starting with making myself happy first.(Shades of Grey in my otherwise lily white nature.)
I have heard a lot of people cribbing in private, to their close friends that they wish they didn't have to talk to 'so n so' person but then 'had to' coz (any of the 1000s of reasons), that one talk wasted all the positivity inside the person and another few hours complaining about the same. Why not just ignore the person and move on? I am not rude but I refuse to be a liar or hypocrite. I have often been accused of being arrogant and standoffish but I can not help it.
It's not that I am stubborn and didn't try to change. I took up Corporate Sales after completing MBA and had the most miserable time of my life trying to survive in that atmosphere. Meeting people, trying to be nice to them and smiling, when i felt like kicking and screaming was not my idea of a dream job. I stuck to it for 11 months and then gave up, which I feel was the decision that saved my sanity. It's then that I accepted that I just can't talk to everybody.
Though, now I do make small talk with everyone having learnt the art of differentiating between friends and acquaintances. Maybe this is my way of staying away from people who I know do not care about me, maybe its my mind's strategy(a kind of defence) to save me from getting hurt. On the other side, I am simply a SNOB/SELECTIVE.
I choose to be like this and my friends have accepted this eccentric nature. Who cares what the rest of the world thinks about me?
To be nice to a moron, idiot and totally unworthy person(as per my standards) or trying to be nice to a highly intelligent ,with superb IQ, extra sweet human being is not my idea of having a great time. If it makes people wary of my reactions, and create lot of bad vibes about me, let it be. If I try to make everyone happy, the one person who definitely would not be happy, would be, ME. So, label me "Selfish" but then let me spread happiness starting with making myself happy first.(Shades of Grey in my otherwise lily white nature.)
I have heard a lot of people cribbing in private, to their close friends that they wish they didn't have to talk to 'so n so' person but then 'had to' coz (any of the 1000s of reasons), that one talk wasted all the positivity inside the person and another few hours complaining about the same. Why not just ignore the person and move on? I am not rude but I refuse to be a liar or hypocrite. I have often been accused of being arrogant and standoffish but I can not help it.
It's not that I am stubborn and didn't try to change. I took up Corporate Sales after completing MBA and had the most miserable time of my life trying to survive in that atmosphere. Meeting people, trying to be nice to them and smiling, when i felt like kicking and screaming was not my idea of a dream job. I stuck to it for 11 months and then gave up, which I feel was the decision that saved my sanity. It's then that I accepted that I just can't talk to everybody.
Though, now I do make small talk with everyone having learnt the art of differentiating between friends and acquaintances. Maybe this is my way of staying away from people who I know do not care about me, maybe its my mind's strategy(a kind of defence) to save me from getting hurt. On the other side, I am simply a SNOB/SELECTIVE.
I choose to be like this and my friends have accepted this eccentric nature. Who cares what the rest of the world thinks about me?
4 comments:
Now I know you must be thinking who ticked on interesting? I did! :)
well i always knew this,its good that finally you have declared it to one and all!
whoa!!Girl - U r one heck of a SNOB - admitted!! hehehe - but pls be gentle(to the highly intelligent ppl, mentioned here) ..wish there was this coloum for devilishness - i wud hav clicked on it!!!
Wow! All my friends really know me well...Thanks for appreciating the post
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