Aisa hota he

The combination of Indian movies and Mills & Boons is hazardous for the concept of marriage and romance in real life. We, the readers learn it the hard way. It awakens the fairy tale romantic notions of life , puts your expectations on a high pedestal and then you crash land.

The cherry on the top of this super awesome combo is that I am a 90’s kid ( ok, a few years older but I grew up in that decade) and we all listened to a staple diet of great songs  - lovely pop music era and singles by Lucky Ali, Shaan, Sony Nigam, Euphoria and so on. The lockdown gave me some time to turn back and listen to those songs again. One of my favourite’s is a song by Shaan and his sister Sagarika- Aisa hota he. A beautiful composition of poles apart siblings and their relationship . However while listening to it last night I realised, at this moment in my life, the words perfectly define the relation between my hubby and me . Aisa hota he.

We are truly poles apart in all our choices from hobbies to food, from dream vacations to how to spend a day at home. ( Mujhko pasand  Chinese khana and usko pasand chaat pakodi)

( Main padti hu books bahut  sari and usko pasand he loud music) - He wishes to be a DJ part time. 

I love watching Bollywood movies and he is still fascinated by roadies, no splitvilla...no big boss....no video games....pick any.

We are as different as can be and it brings out fights , frustrations, expectations and challenges on all occasions. At the same time these differences are the reason we are together because all this mayhem brings with it variety, spices, and experiences that fulfill the unknown blank spaces of our lives. 

He doesn’t read but listens to anything I have read ( not that I give him a choice to ignore me) 😉. I had no clue about a lot of gadgets but can listen to hours now about them ( as if I have a choice not to😔)

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We might fight /argue/ discuss on same points in circles for months for he never accepts he is wrong and i won’t stop till it is resolved. But these sessions also tell that we care enough to communicate. - Aisa hota he

I might not understand his fascination for wires but can live with it. He can’t understand mine with Shahrukh Khan’s movies but he has no choice other than to accept it. 

So dear husband the following lines are dedicated to you - 

Main tujhko, tu mujhko he pasand.

Par apni pasand alag he.

Main tere bin, tu mere bina 

Mushkil he akele jeena

Pyaar me in kabhi kabhi

Aisa hota he.

And before you or I pick up next point to argue/ discuss

” Tu right nai he Naina ( Atul), bas mujhse alag he.” 

-  Courtesy- Yeh Jawani he deewani